First off, I’m so sorry that you are heading into a New Year carrying with you the need of restoring your relationship. No words can comfort you or reduce your pain, but I hope over the next few days, weeks and months you begin to see that life does go on. In the midst of your struggles, you will find strength and courage to restore your relationship.
One of the keys to restoring your relationship is being honest with yourself and your partner. The problem is that once you are struggling in your relationship, life becomes a big blur. It’s like you begin living in a fog. You lose track of days and what’s important. Living with such stress is no doubt difficult but not impossible.
My suggestion is that you take baby steps on your road to recovery and try not to expect too much in the beginning. Lower your expectations and let the restoration happen in its due time.
I have no doubt that you can restore your relationship if you and your partner both want to. The key is that you both have to want to repair your relationship. If only one person wants to reconcile the relationship, it won’t work. Also, for a successful recovery, it’s critical that both individuals are committed to doing whatever it takes, to heal the brokenness.
It’s a proven fact that any broken relationship can be repaired. It doesn’t matter how many other people you know or have read about where their relationship ended in a bitter divorce. The only relationship that matters is yours.
Do you want to restore your relationship? Does your partner want to restore your relationship? If the answer is yes and yes, then you are already on the right path to rebuilding your relationship.
Since we have crossed over into a New Year, you should think of this month as a new beginning. Look forward and not to the past. Give your heart and mind time to heal and then start taking steps to fix and rebuild your relationship.
First, reconnect emotionally and then physically. Become friends again before you become lovers again. Restoring your relationship is possible and will happen to you, if you and your partner are ready, willing and able.