Is restoring your marriage something you have been struggling to do? Well, I hope you are making progress and not letting your frustrations and marriage issues keep you from restoring the love and bond that can give you a renewed hope and a restored marriage.
Divorce is never pretty and is rarely the best option. In fact, short of mental or physical abuse situations where counseling could not heal the broken marriage, then there really isn’t a good reason to divorce.
So, how can you restore your marriage and put off the divorce? Well, what are you willing to do to keep your marriage?
Are you willing to fight for to restore your marriage? I’m not talking about fighting with your spouse to get your way in the marriage. I’m talking about humbling yourself and putting aside your interest for the sake of restoring your marriage.
Are you willing to stop arguing to restore your marriage? It’s difficult to resist hammering your spouse on any and every issue when you are tired and frustrated. You can find yourself arguing over dinner plans, family visits, purchases or anything else. Can you commit to letting your spouse argue with his or herself for the time being?
Can you ask your spouse to forgive you to restore your marriage? If you have not been perfect (and none of us are) there are probably a few areas you have let your spouse down in your marriage recently. Have you been unfaithful? Have you been a nightmare to live with? Have you used your tongue or bank account to punish your spouse for making your married life difficult? Whatever, you have been doing or not doing, can you bring yourself to asking for forgiveness?
Would your marriage survive if you asked for a truce? It’s hard to save a marriage when you are in the heat of battle. I’m sure your spouse is probably as tired and frustrated as you are and could benefit from a break in trying to bring your marriage to an end. Why not ask him or her to put things on hold and see how things are 2 months from now.
Is forgiving your spouse or asking for forgiveness in areas of broken vows, trust, or confidence something that has been missing? If you or your spouse has been unfaithful it doesn’t mean that divorce is inevitable. If you want to save your marriage, it’s just another obstacle. You won’t be the first couple able to save their marriage under this stressful situation.
So, the question is, are you really ready to begin restoring your marriage? Can you put aside the fight plan you have been following and take a different approach? Please note that nothing I mentioned above is to be viewed as surrendering. What it really represents is a change in mindset and heart. To save your marriage, it will be necessary to use a different strategy. You can find out more about how this can be done by visiting here; Restoring Your Marriage
Do you have what it takes to save your marriage? I hope you at least give it one more shot. If it doesn’t work out you can feel assured that you gave it your all. I think it will work out though. Again, for more tips on saving your marriage, read here; Restore Your Marriage