If you are hurting and have been knocked off your feet dealing with infidelity you should probably read this. I don’t have any secrets to share with you to help ease your pain. I do however hope to get you thinking about the next steps in the long journey you are on to help you in coping with infidelity.
Who Else Is Dealing With Unfaithfulness?
You might feel like you are on a deserted island because of the infidelity issue in your relationship. However, unfortunately you are just one of the millions of folks who are trying to repair and rebuild their relationship because cheating has occurred.
Well, collecting statistics on who is cheating is not that easy but some organizations have captured some data. Obviously getting spouses or significant others to confess to having an affair is not easily done. Below is a picture of some data collected by the associated press. I don’t know if the percentages have increased, decreased or stayed the same over the last 5 to 10 years. If I had to guess, I would say that probably more folks are committing unfaithful acts today then in the past. My guess is based on the technology that folks have at their finger tips today that didn’t exist 5 to 10 years ago.
- 22% Of Married Men Cheat
- 14% Of Married Women Cheat
- 17% Of Divorces Are Because Of Infidelity
- 90% Of Married Couples Believe Infidelity Is Wrong
Do you see a problem with the above chart? If 90% of married folks believe that adultery is wrong, why are so many couples dealing with infidelity?
I guess for many folks they either believe that they won’t get caught or perhaps that their selfish desires are more important than their relationship.
Why Do Folks Cheat?
I think most couples plan on being faithful to one another but things happen in their relationship which leads to different actions.
Some individuals attribute their cheating simply to wanting to be happy. All they know is at the moment, their spouse or partner is not making them happy. Someone comes along who can fill that missing void and thus you have a recipe ripe for unfaithfulness.
There are other folks who in relationships that are conducive to cheating. The couples who pretty much have separate lives, outside of their home, have a greater opportunity to cheat. For one, there is not much time spent together and thus loneliness, bitterness and resentment can easily creep into such a relationship.
There are some individuals who feel entitled and thus have no problems with cheating. In their mind committing adultery is justified because of the problems in the relationship.
There are some steps you can take to help you get through this difficult time while dealing with infidelity. You can read more tips here; dealing with adultery.