Restoring marriage at a time when respect, commitment and love have gone astray can look like a dream instead of a possibility. However, it is very likely that with a few adjustments in mind and behavior, restoring a broken marriage is possible.
Is your marriage suffering from constant fighting, abandonment, anger, selfishness or perhaps an emotional or physical affair? Well, please know that marriages with worst problems have been able to be restored so don’t give up hope on your marriage yet.
It’s obvious that your marriage wasn’t always this way but somehow as you’ve both matured and gotten wiser your thinking has changed. Stuff that you used to be ok with now drives you crazy right? Has you spouse changed or have you? One of the keys to restoring marriage is to first change the mind and then the heart.
Ok so the first step in restoring marriage is to figure out what mental and physical changes need to be made to renew your marriage.
Mental Changes in Restoring Marriage
So many times in marriage couples have built up so many negative feelings about their marriage and more importantly their spouse that even the good things begin to look and feel bad. Something done by one person a few years ago would have been appreciated and accepted as an act of love is now viewed with suspicion and motives are questioned.
Instead of “thank you” and “I love you” the thoughts of “what did you do wrong” or “this is just a cover for something you are doing”.
Renew your marriage by replacing all of your built up negative feelings and suspicions about your spouse and marriage with appreciation and love for your partner.
Physical Changes in Restoring Marriage
There are a number of physical changes you can make in rebuilding your marriage. Some of them require you to get past the negative feelings and just do these.
- Hug (a real hug not a buddy hug) at least 3 times a day.
- Hold hands while walking out in public as often as you can.
- Put a picture of your spouse as your screen saver on your computer and phone.
- Agree that on at least two nights a week you will go to bed at the same time.
- Commit to taking a walk at least one day a week (without discussing any serious topics)
The goal here in restoring marriage is to help you return to being good friends. It’s hard to renew your marriage when you can’t seem to be friends or in some cases intimate. Making a conscious decision to touch and be together when in doesn’t involve tense or confrontational moments will help you renew your marriage.
I hope these, couple of tips, give you some general ways to begin restoring marriage.
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