I would first like to say that I’m sorry you are searching for information on affair healing. There are many problems couples need to overcome to stay together and how to recover after infidelity just happens to be a big one. However, please know that it is possible to heal after an affair.
There are some who believe that healing from an affair has to be difficult and must be painful. I don’t agree with this belief. Yes there is pain and it is difficult but it’s different for each couple. Don’t accept that your affair healing has to take years and that you will probably never trust and love your partner again. If you start out believing this then you have already made your recovery after infidelity 10 times harder.
Affair Healing Tip # 1
Don’t sit idle waiting for recovery to come. Affair healing doesn’t happen just because time passes by. Sure you may feel better after a few days, weeks or months but the wound is still open and will never close on its own. If you want to truly be healed after an affair, you will need to take the steps to make it happen.
It’s ok to go through your grieving, sad, mad, disappointed and resentful stages but you need to be determined to move forward. If you don’t work at it you will forever be wounded.
Affair Healing Tip # 2
Clearly communicate with your partner. Regardless of your relationship you must be clear in dealing with your cheating partner. In other words, don’t confuse the matter by sending mixed signals regarding your expectations going forward. This will require that you think carefully, clearly and rationally when communicating with your mate. Don’t leave room for assumptions.
Affair Healing Tip # 3
Make a plan to recover after infidelity. It’s not quite a rehabilitation plan but it’s similar. You need to know what’s required for affair healing to occur and how you are going to get there. For example, perhaps you can journal the things you need to know, stuff you need to do and what you expect your cheating partner to do. Now, when all of these things are done you can truly know and feel that your relationship has been healed and restored. Without an understanding and vision, your affair healing will be more uncertain.
I hope you realize that I’m not minimizing the pain and broken-heart you are dealing with. What I’m trying to show you is that it’s really up to you how long your healing takes.
I also know that it’s complicated, takes hard work and commitment. However, you can recover faster than you might imagine. And yes, you can get to the point where you trust and love each other again.
If you can use some other key tips and advice on affair healing, please take 2 minutes and read here, Coping With Infidelity. I think you will see why I believe your healing can happen.
For other helping resources on restoring relationships, please visit here; Affair Healing