How to Restore Your Broken Relationships or Restore Your Marriage
Restoring relationships is complicated but not impossible. If you are struggling in your relationship and growing weary of fighting, being frustrated and feeling alone, I hope the information that we have compiled here will help you bring healing, love, trust and hope back into your marriage or relationship.
Just trying to survive or cope is not good enough for you. I know you want and deserve more and hopefully today is the beginning of your journey to restoring your broken relationship.
Please don’t give up yet! It is still possible to restore your marriage or relationship, even if you want to do so more than your than partner does.
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It doesn’t matter if you are married, engaged or dating, your relationship will be tested at some point by a make or break issue. There is no perfect person or relationship so don’t assume that it’s just you. The more important matter is how you go about restoring relationships and in a marriage situation working on restoring your marriage before you either end up divorced or be forced to live each day, frustrated, hurt and looking for a way out.
Are You Guilty Of These Relationship Destroyers?
How to maintain a great relationship with our spouse, future spouse or significant other is not something that is taught as we are growing up. It’s for the most part on the job training and it’s only natural that mistakes get made along the way, causing us to look for ways to repair our broken relationship or marriage.
Then we realize that not only were we not taught about being in a relationship but we also don’t have a clue about restoring broken relationships. So we try some of these common (but destructive) tactics, that end up slowly killing the relationship and pushing our partner further away, making restoring relationships much harder:
- Asking friends and family for advice
- Trying to convince the other person to change
- Promising him or her that you will change
- Ignoring the problem wishing that it disappears
- Trying to smother the other person so they don’t leave
- Trying to use guilt to make the other person stay with you
- Initiating verbal conflict out of anger or frustration
Are you feeling like everything you do pushes the person you are trying to restore a broken relationship with further away?
I have created this website to help you with restoring your broken relationships by giving you tips, techniques and resources to aide you along the way. Individuals are usually too hurt, embarrassed, angry or reluctant to talk to someone who could really help. In most cases they either gravitate toward someone who is also trying to restore their broken relationships or someone who has already given up on their relationship, usually getting little help.
Tips To Help With Restoring Broken Relationships
Ten Ways to Restore Relationships
The petty fights have escalated. The long, drawn out silences are nearly deafening now. You can be in the same bed for an entire night and never once touch each other. There is trouble in your relationship and you both know you need restoring. But how can you restore your relationship or restore your marriage? What can you try before it is simply too late?
The fact that you are both willing to try anything at all is a good sign in my book, and there are ways to restore relationships, but it takes work.
- Spend time remembering what drew you together in the first place. Did you fall in love with her quirky sense of humor? Did he drive you wild in his football jersey? What exactly attracted you to one another? Find something from your mutual past and use it to reconnect with your partner. Take her to a comedy and club and watch her let loose. Dig out his old jersey and ask him to wear it. Even if you have to pretend to be these people for a minute or two, go back in time to when your love was new. The feelings are still there, they have just been buried under the stress of life. Let them back out and you will begin restoring your relationship.
- Touch for the sake of touching. When we are angry, hurt or sad, we tend to withdraw back into ourselves. We stop reaching out to our loved ones and that makes them hurt, angry and sad. Reach out and stroke your wife’s hair. Run your fingers along your husband’s arm. Allow your hips to gently brush against one another as you pass in the hallway. Just touch each other and before you know it romance will be renewed and restored in your relationship.
- Kissing is different from touching. With touching, it can be misconstrued as accidental. There is no way to unintentionally kiss somebody. Women: take your husband’s face in your hands, stare him right in the eyes and then kiss him, softly and slowly. You would be surprised how fast passion can melt away anger.
- Try a change of scenery. Staring at the same four walls when you are angry with someone can make the most beautifully decorated room feel like a jail cell. Go away for the weekend, even if it is only to a local hotel. The change may allow you to relax enough to discuss what is wrong, or maybe it will suddenly seem so insignificant that you forget it completely.
- Act like you are strangers. Have you ever noticed that we treat perfect strangers with more dignity and respect than we do our loved ones? Our manners in general public can be exquisite while at home we turn into Penny and Paulie Pig, grunting and squealing at our spouses. Doesn’t sound fair, does it? Try to be more polite while at home and see if that changes things. Ask sweetly for something and include a “please.” Say thank you for tasks completed, no matter how small. Give and receive compliments graciously. Act like you really do like this person, and restoring relationships will be a thing of the past.
- Learn something new as a couple. If you can stop bickering long enough, agree to try a new hobby or sport. Pick up some used golf clubs and go down to the golf course for a few rounds. Hike in the woods, bike on a trail; do something new and possibly exciting and discover a whole new side to your lover.
- Talk it out. You have pouted for over a week because he did not notice your new hair cut. Unless you hacked off more than six inches of hair, it might be because he did not register such a subtle change as quickly as your female friends did. Then again, maybe he did notice and didn’t really care for it. Maybe the whole point of him not saying anything is because he was afraid he would hurt your feelings. And yet, here you are, with hurt feelings. Tell him about it. He cannot read your mind, so tell him that you cut your hair and that he did not notice. Tell him that you are mad as hell about it. Of course, after he tells you what he really thought about your hair, you might be even madder than that!
- Write a letter. It might seem strange to write a letter to someone who is sitting across the breakfast table, but if you are not communicating any other way, it might be a safer option. List all the points that you want to make and then write. Don’t worry about how it is worded, you are not going for Wordsworth, after all. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. And always remember: do not ever put into writing today what you do not want to be reminded of tomorrow.
- Seek counseling. If all else fails, try a couple’s counselor. If you truly want to save your relationship, the impartial wisdom of an outside party might be just the saving grace you need. You vent to your friends, and they all agree that you have married a slovenly pig. He vents to his friends and they all agree with him that he has married a soul crushing shrew. A counselor will not take sides and may be able to steer you onto the right path of self healing.
- As a last resort consider a trial separation. If all else has failed, agree to spend a weekend apart with no communication of any kind. The time alone will give you time to reflect and renew. Besides, you know the old saying: absence makes the heart grow fonder.
These are just a few ideas for you to begin restoring broken relationships. I hope and pray that you take the necessary steps to fix your relationship or restore marriage.
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